Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Words from Experience...



I wish I knew these things before... I would have done so many things differently...

  • I have learned to cherish every moment I have with a good friend because life happens and all that is left are memories of great times that might never be repeated again!
  • Good friends are like gray whales (almost extinct). So when you find them, make sure you let them know how much you value their friendship any chance you have.
  • Don't complain that your phone doesn't stop ringing: it's only when the ringing stops that you will appreciate it!
  • When you feel down and can't think of one person to talk to and share your troubles with, you need to start rethinking about who you can call a "friend".
  • Stop thinking that you live on hope; it's a myth! You live on food and water (or earth if I'm being sarcastic)!
  • No one is 100% bad; however, how bad is the bad part is what you have to consider!
  • Living by the rules or breaking them is a choice you have to make on your own... Just like you alone will have to live with the consequences!
  • Beauty doesn't get you anywhere good. Trust me, you don't want to be surrounded by people who only care about being with you as far as the bed (or sofa - whichever floats your boat)!
  • Laughter is as important as tears... One lifts the spirits while the other frees it!
  • Words are empty shells which can't kill you but can really bruise!
(To be continued)

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Random Observation: Tangibles & Closure!



The more I think about it, the more I truly believe that there exists a very high relation or even correlation between tangibles - such as cars, mobile phones and so on- and closure between two people who have ended, or in the process of ending, a relationship.

The way I see it, after having been subjected to the situation and seeing others undergo it as well, tangibles constitute a large part of any relationship, regardless of its nature, strength or purity. The tangibles we have throughout the relationship start forming some bond with our partner during his presence in our lives. If we really want to move on, it only seems objective for us to replace all the tangibles that now remind us of that one-upon-a-time partner!

Let's take a car for example, you spend hours in a car together with your partner, you laugh, argue, touch; create memories... How hard would it be to go in your car, every single day, knowing that the person who you've shared all those times with, in this particular car, is now gone? Naturally, this applies to furniture, such as a bed or a couch and the list goes on!

To some, even a mobile phone could be the tangible to replace after replacing the partner!

I guess it all depends on the budget and the will to move on!

Leaving the country seems like the best solution to replace most tangibles at once, wouldn't you agree?

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

He Labels Me, He Labels Me Not!



A Brief Introduction:

According to Wikipedia, a label can be used as a form of product identification, name tags, advertising, warnings, and other communication and a brand is a name or trademark connected with a product or producer and are now being described as "cultural accessories and personal philosophies".

In the business world and especially in relation to marketing and advertising, we all understand the importance of labels and brands and how they help spread an image and further position a product or service. But can this labeling concept be applied to human relationships? And how?

Why Do We Need Labeling & Branding in Relationships?

After a very intriguing conversation with a "friend", I found myself linking the concept of branding and labeling to the human condition and realizing that there is a need for labels and brands in relationships for a better and more organized way of life!

Allow me to explain further:

Do you think it is possible to determine a certain way of behavior with someone without the existence of clear defined labels both parties can be identified with?

What differentiates an employer from an employee? Apart from the salary, experience, obligations and maybe the office they work in? How could you know whom to report to in a new office without being given a label of that person before even knowing his/her name? How can boundaries of respect and chain of command be determined? An employer has a power of authority which he can use more than often to fire, criticize and even more insult an employee. An employer's role shift continuously and freely. When it comes to employees, they lack the flexibility and need to operate by certain rules of conduct or else will end up jobless!

What differentiates a friend from an acquaintance? Both are human being (hopefully), both have the essential body parts and internal systems and both can talk, laugh, cry and eat (as well as other things I don't need to mention)! Yet, a friend is someone whom you can confide in, someone who you will find there next to you in moments of great happiness and pain, someone who you have things in common with and enjoy talking to. On the other hand, acquaintances are those whom you probably have many duplicates of; you see then every once in a blue moon, you talk to them about random things, you don't trust them and you don't usually choose to spend time with them, it just happens accidentally!

What differentiates a "no label" relationship from a labeled one? (in intimate relationships) Well, though there are many types of intimate relationships such as open relationships, complicated relationships, steady relationships and so on, it all boils down to labels! In any form of intimate relationships, there exists a need for a definition of the relationship, a label, which defines the boundaries of what can be and can not be done within the frame of respect and expectations. A "no label" relationship hinders any plans for an effort to be placed in the relationship, it plants doubt and nurtures insecurities. Furthermore, such a relationship can lead to confusion and discomfort!

And the list goes on for relationships between parents and children, a current boyfriend/girlfriend and an ex, an older sister and a younger brother, and so on...

Real Life Examples:

If all coke was called coke, you know, a generic name for all similar products rather than branded as Pepsi and Coca Cola. What happens if you drink a coke and get poisoned, how will you ever trust coke again? Will you even drink coke after that? How can you be sure that this coke is what you want and not the other? How will you ever develop brand loyalty for coke?

Now, let's take it from another angle: We all know Coca Cola and Pepsi and many of us can really differentiate the taste regardless of which can the drink is placed in or even when we drink it from a glass. How? Coca Cola and Pepsi have spent years building a brand image based on their label that now, they don't need the label for people to know which is which.

Conclusion:

Yes, many years and situations can definitely eliminate the need for labels whether in the business world or in human relationships yet labels come in handy in the beginning of any product/service launch or the start of any human relationship.

I rest my case.


Monday, July 13, 2009

You and I Are Two....


Picture by: Beirut Abu Hdaib

P.S: Again this is neither dedicated to nor inspired by anyone is specific...

You and I are two:

Never will we be one...
If you are the moon, I won't be your guiding sun...
If you pause to think, I will continue to run...
If you plan to leave, then it's all said and done!

You and I are two:

Never will we be together...
If you stay here, it has to be a little less than forever,
If you break my soul, I will take it never...
If you think you know it all, I am way too clever!

You and I are two:

I can be sad and you might be blue,
I might ache inside but I won't reach out to you,
You might falter and only then will I see you through...

You and I are two:

Broken from the world outside,
Drowning anger that we try to hide,
You faked a lot but I never lied...

You and I are two:

Walking together or walking alone,
Heart so tender and heart of stone,
True intentions revealed and shown!

You and I are two:

Maybe we could have been one united,
Maybe the darkness of night we may have lighted,
Maybe a new feeling we could have ignited!

You and I are two:

I am me and you are you,
You are happy and I am blue,
Though I was always being true!

You and I are two:

Never will there be a story,
Of love with pride and glory,
Your dagger in my heart will always be gory!

You and I are two:

Drink your pain away,
While I suffer with my dismay,
And the movie of our ending in my head continues to play...
 

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