Let me give you now a little advice, rather a small hint, about priorities, those that you set for yourself when you are choosing a job, a partner, a university, even what to wear, where to go or what to eat…
It took me such a long time and so many disappointments to figure this out so hear me out, maybe you’ll avoid some of those!
Every person in this life works hard to become what he/she is and to reach where he/she wants to be… Along that road, each of us lists a set of priorities sought in every choice made…
In a job, for example, you might have the following priorities in mind: a good salary, a career path, a healthy and friendly working environment and a fairly understanding boss. Now, it is obvious that this may not applicable all the time so here is when you sacrifice one or two of your priorities in the favor of others that may have high importance as well.
Up to this point, things seem to be fair and just normal!
Here is where it starts to get tricky!
In a relationship, when choosing a partner, you also set certain priorities that you make up through time and experiences. Those priorities could be regarding looks, personality, goals, career objectives, family, etc. It is truly difficult to keep your priorities straight here because sometimes love can really make you bend and twist your own rules, not blind you, just make you more susceptive to changing what you believe in.
I’m not saying you should not make some changes in the name of “love”, I’m just saying that the more priorities you let go of, the more the emptiness you will suffer when it is all over and you realize that all you did just went to waste!
So, here is what I’m trying to say: priorities are important, they can be bent but the least minimum required priorities should never be messed with or the end result will be self-doubt and plain emptiness…
It took me such a long time and so many disappointments to figure this out so hear me out, maybe you’ll avoid some of those!
Every person in this life works hard to become what he/she is and to reach where he/she wants to be… Along that road, each of us lists a set of priorities sought in every choice made…
In a job, for example, you might have the following priorities in mind: a good salary, a career path, a healthy and friendly working environment and a fairly understanding boss. Now, it is obvious that this may not applicable all the time so here is when you sacrifice one or two of your priorities in the favor of others that may have high importance as well.
Up to this point, things seem to be fair and just normal!
Here is where it starts to get tricky!
In a relationship, when choosing a partner, you also set certain priorities that you make up through time and experiences. Those priorities could be regarding looks, personality, goals, career objectives, family, etc. It is truly difficult to keep your priorities straight here because sometimes love can really make you bend and twist your own rules, not blind you, just make you more susceptive to changing what you believe in.
I’m not saying you should not make some changes in the name of “love”, I’m just saying that the more priorities you let go of, the more the emptiness you will suffer when it is all over and you realize that all you did just went to waste!
So, here is what I’m trying to say: priorities are important, they can be bent but the least minimum required priorities should never be messed with or the end result will be self-doubt and plain emptiness…
2 comments:
thank you for the advice :)
u r right... there r some priorities we can never mess with no matter what!!
but this priorities thing is attached to the other factor which is dignity, pride, self respect, honor... if u want to build a good relation, with a good base, u have to stick to ur principles and ur beliefs at first, cuz u don't want the other part to think that u r easy, and he/she can control u and make u the way he/she wants... but then, u have to take it easy on these things and start to let go of some of ur beliefs and priorities and start focusing on making the relation better and better...
it's a tricky thing!! but believe u the me, if the other part is good and straight and has good intentions, u'll not have big problems with him/her... that's what i've noticed from my experience too!!
thank you for sharing ur experiences with us... i hope life smile to u again and soon!!
Thank you for the comment...
I know exactly what u mean in every word u said...
U talked about "the other part", if we found the right other part things will be easier well, these days it seems that whether we are looking or not, the right other part are currently not available or out of reach!
Anyway, no one knows what challenge the next day will bring right?
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